Supporting Postpartum Mental Health: Tips for Family & Friends

Bringing new life into the world is a beautiful experience for a new mom and her loved ones. However, many new moms struggle with their mental health after birth. Postpartum mental illness is one of the most challenging and unrecognized experiences for new mothers, yet it is more common than we think. One in eight mothers suffers from postpartum depression. It goes without saying that it can be stressful adjusting to the changes and responsibilities of motherhood. The first year of a child's life is critical in their development, so mothers may need support from those around them if they cannot meet all of their child's needs. At LunaJoy, we specialize in maternal mental health, and we want to provide you with some tips and information to help you support the new moms in your life.

Before you begin, remember that our professionals are always here to help

Signs & Symptoms of Postpartum Mental Health Issues

Maternal mental health issues tend to appear during the perinatal period, including prenatal, during pregnancy, and a year after birth. A combination of birth being a major life change along with the stress of motherhood and possible outside stressors usually is the cause of postpartum mental health issues. Some common disorders in new moms are depression, generalized anxiety disorder, panic disorder, obsessive-compulsive disorder, and birth-related PTSD.

Here are some signs & symptoms to look for. If a new mom has a postpartum mental illness, she may:

• Feel constantly tired

• Cry often for no apparent reason

• Feel panicky

• Worry excessively about her own or the baby’s health

• Have a lack of feeling for the baby

• Have difficulty sleeping or eating

• Have problems concentrating

• Have frightening thoughts or fantasies

• Feel an overwhelming sense of loss

How to Support a New Mom That's Struggling with Mental Health Issues

As a friend or family member of someone who is experiencing postpartum depression, anxiety, and other mental illnesses associated with this tough transition into parenting, you may feel overwhelmed or unsure of how to help the person in your life. If you suspect that a new mom in your life is suffering from mental health issues, here are some questions to ask:

• How have you been feeling lately? Are there any moments when you feel particularly down or overwhelmed?

• Have you noticed any increased irritability or anger towards the people around you recently?

• Have you been able to form a strong bond with your baby? Are there any challenges you're facing in connecting with your little one?

• Have you been experiencing any feelings of anxiety or panic lately?

• Have you been having difficulties with your eating or sleeping patterns?

• Are there any recurring thoughts that bother you or feel intrusive and difficult to manage?

• Do you ever feel like you're losing control or feel overwhelmed by everything happening around you?

• Have you ever had thoughts that you regret becoming a parent?

• Are there any concerns or worries you have about your ability to keep your baby and yourself safe?

If the answer is yes to several of these questions, your loved one may be suffering from a maternal mental health disorder. It's crucial to acknowledge that this can happen to anyone and not to dismiss it or be ashamed to seek help. Support comes in numerous forms, from therapy to medication to support from loved ones. Being a friend or family member in the support group can be a huge responsibility and seem overwhelming, especially when unsure how to help. Here are some tips:

• Ask: Besides asking the questions above, asking your loved one what they need and how you can help is important. Some tasks may need to be done, like laundry or cleaning the house. Tackling some things on their to-do list may lift a lot of stress off their shoulders. 

• Listen thoroughly: Being a listening ear for your new mom is essential. Listen with an open mind and heart when and if she wants to open up and talk about her struggles. Having a safe space may bring her some comfort.

• Offer help when you see opportunities: Even if you ask, she may say she's okay. So, pay attention and pitch in where you can. If you are a trusted family member or friend, watch the baby for her so she can get some sleep if she hasn't been sleeping well. Drop off groceries or cook some meals in advance for her. 

• Check in routinely:  Make sure to check on her throughout the journey. A simple call, text, or visit can change a person's mood. Let her know you are there for her and that she can rely on you. 

• Suggest professional help if needed: If you witness any severe changes, it is a good idea to suggest professional help. Therapy is an excellent tool when navigating through drastic life changes. 

• Take care of yourself: When caring for others, it's common to neglect ourselves. Take care of your mental health in the process so that you are whole and able to be there for her. 

Postpartum mental health issues do not discriminate; new mothers must receive the care and attention they need. Your support is vital to the moms in your life. If you or a loved one is struggling with postpartum mental health, LunaJoy is here to help through the new challenges of motherhood. Please contact us to schedule an appointment.